You didn’t ask but I’ll tell you anyway

Welcome to the sixth edition of YDA…a column where I deal with your questions, problems, and concerns. This week you lovely ladies seem to be having trouble digesting the fact that I’m a divorcee…is there nothing on tv my friends?

Holy Guacamole…I’ve been getting a lot of emails from people asking me about my marriage…who knew that this would upset so many of you?

Here are just a few of the questions and statements that have landed in my inbox these past few days:

• How can you call yourself a lesbian, and give advice to lesbians, if you were married to a man? You’re a hypocrite!

• You were married? To a man? Really?

• So were you bisexual and then became a lesbian or were you straight and then decided to be one?

• AHA! You’re not a gold star lesbian! I knew you slept with men before you slept with women. My best friend owes me $20!

• We all do stupid things in our early twenties…it’s nice to see you came to play on our team.

Mon Dieu! Lovely ladies…thou hath shocked the hell out of me. With some of these comments, one can justify why people still equate lesbians as being man-haters.

To make a long story short, I married a guy in order to help him become a Canadian citizen. He knew I was gay before we married. He was allowed to have his mistresses, and I could have mine. The reason for our divorce is because after 11 months into our marriage, he thought I should perform my wifely duties (cook, clean, and have sex with him). He justified this mindset stating that he really didn’t think I was gay.

Here are a few other fun facts:

• I’ve known I was gay since I was 18.
• I’ve never had sex with a man, despite the fact that I did sincerely try twice in the span of 2 years…I’m slutty that way.
• Both men received numerous apologies for a lack of a good time.
• Even if I were bisexual or an ex-heterosexual, I don’t think this would make me any less “qualified” to give lesbians my two cents.
• My marriage was one of the least stupid things I did in my twenties.

That’s it for this week’s edition of You didn’t ask but I’ll tell you anyway. Stay tuned when next week I’ll discuss other stupid things I did in my twenties…or not.

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