The first time I kissed a girl I was twenty. It was soft, sweet, and slow…and for a few seconds I completely forgot to breathe. It was then that I realized I was indeed gay. I also realized that if I wanted to live a long healthy life as a lesbian, I should probably stop kissing this particular girl since her boyfriend was just a few feet away.
Here’s a mostly harmless suggestion for you: you need to make out more. It doesn’t matter if you’re just starting a relationship, or if you’ve been together for 20 years. MAKE. OUT. MORE.
Kissing is a skill…and like all skills, it can be improved upon with time, practice, and a whole lot of enthusiasm. So while you’re smooching up a storm, just remember that kissing is also a form of sexual communication. The way you kiss relays important information to your lover about what she can expect to happen in the bedroom. That’s a lot of pressure eh? Sorry, I was speaking Canadian…I’ll translate…that’s a lot of pressure isn’t?
Here then are a few steps to ensure that you show your honey just how much you want her…without actually getting naked…well at least not right away.
• Anticipation is an aphrodisiac
You might want to rip off her clothes as soon as your lips touch hers, but you need to slow down a wee bit. As someone who has been celibate for over a year; believe me when I say I understand that you want nudity RIGHT NOW. However, remember that making out is a wonderful way to build up even more sexual tension between the two of you. It’s sexy and it’s hot, and it teaches me…I mean you…it teaches you…patience.
• A + B should not always = C
Two pairs of lips touching one another does not a kiss make…well not a good kiss anyway. You’ve got an imagination so use it! And stop thinking that you just have to kiss her lips! She’s got a neck, earlobes, a nose, eyelids, a forehead, hands, fingers…and don’t forget her tongue…mmmmmmmm tongue.
• Thou art not a cheerleader
Sure you can dress up as one, but don’t fall into a routine. Or at the very least, make up quite a few so that things don’t become boring or stagnant. If your kisses aren’t creating sparks, there sure as hell won’t be a fire in the bedroom.
• Don’t try to be Donna Juanna
Even if you’ve kissed a hundred girls that doesn’t mean you know what this particular one likes. Every woman is different. So if you like your kisses hard, she might like hers soft. Keep that in mind and take the time to learn what gets her mojo-a-go-go.
• Location, location, location
Though I’m not a huge fan of extreme public displays of affection, I don’t believe you should keep your kissing sessions strictly confined to the bedroom…or anywhere else in the house. My favourite places: the car, the movie theater, the library…and the occasional bathroom stall.
• Keep her on her toes…or on her back
Some of the best kisses I ever received were the ones that were spontaneous and unexpected. I had one girlfriend who would always kiss me goodbye when I was leaving. Sometimes, instead of a little peck on the cheek or lips, she would slam me up against a wall and ravage my mouth and neck until I was panting and moaning. Then she’d walk away leaving me aching in parts I didn’t even know I had. Good times. Good times.
Regardless of whether you’re in a serious relationship, or just flinging the time away, take the time to enjoy your lover’s lips…the top ones…then if all goes well…enjoy the bottom ones too.
