Anyone who has the pleasure (and displeasure) of knowing me will readily testify in a court of law that I love to generalize. I do it all the time. I even begin most of my sentences by saying “I know I’m generalizing but…”. I can’t tell you how much my generalizations on any given topic annoys my friends and loved ones. Hopefully not to the point where I don’t get Christmas presents this year…
Here’s a mostly harmless generalization for you: Older lesbians who date younger women aren’t emotionally healthy. I’ve preached a number of times on this website about how I do not approve of older lesbians dating significantly younger women. I myself have a NO MORE THAN 5 YEARS YOUNGER rule. This drives my friends nuts and consequently I’ve been accused of ageism. And I must admit…rightly so.
While I stand by what I wrote back in Koo-Koo-Ka-Choo…or is that your daughter? I recognize that I cannot generalize every single time I see an older woman dating a younger lesbian. Regardless of one’s age, what it comes down to at the end of the days is this:
Are you dating someone who is emotionally mature AND emotionally healthy?
I mean these two look like they are, and there is a 15 year difference between them:
So my lovely readers and friends…I stand corrected. I’ve learned two very valuable lessons:
1. Age does not matter.
2. “All generalizations are not always true.” *teehee*
As someone who experiences ageism in every aspect of my life (being so young and awesome!), what made you change you mind on the age thing?
Perhaps I could pass some advice on to someone!