If you want a house with a white picket fence and 2.5 children, you’re suddenly accused of becoming a hetero wannabe. On the other side of said white picket fence however, if you’re parading around in leather chaps with your bouncy ass cheeks for the world to see, you’re making it harder for gay people to be accepted and seen as “normal” human beings who have to pay their taxes just like everybody else. I say we burn down the fence.
Here’s a mostly harmless statement for you: In general, with some exceptions of course, straight people have it harder than gay people when it comes to expressing their sexual desires. They aren’t allowed as much sexual freedom as gay people because to completely liberate themselves from imposed sexual constraints would mean they’d have to give up religion. Gay people on the other hand have long been exiled and persecuted by numerous religions around the world to the extent where we no longer feel the guilt associated with religious stigma.
We’ve long held the belief that what we do in the bedroom or anywhere else for that matter isn’t cause for shame or humiliation…unless of course that’s the type of thing that turns us on. Regardless of what floats our boats, we must admit that we do get off easily, no pun intended, when it comes to letting our freak flags fly. When straight people hear about our sexual escapades, they’re automatically under the assumption that we’re behaving this way because we’re gay. However, when we hear about straight couples and their kinky adventures, society has a tendency to judge them more harshly for not following the norm of what is considered to be civilized sexual behaviour. They’re considered perverts.
Strangely enough, it’s the straight people in my life who are far more kinkier than the gay ones. I have friends who:
- are poly
- have foot fetishes
- work in the porn industry
- prefer anal sex over vaginal sex
- dress their wives in rubber from head to toe
- want to be locked in a closet all night long for being bad.
Despite liking being in the closet at times, these people are forced to stay there because to come out would have them be shunned by family, friends, and co-workers. They’re not permitted the same sexual “liberties” if you will as their gay counterparts; providing of course no one is living in a country where being gay is illegal and warrants a death sentence.
I would even go as far to say that if straight people were allowed to freely express themselves sexually, we’d recognize that homos and heteros aren’t really all that different. Some of us want to be loved, some of us want to be fucked, some of us want both. As long as everyone is being respectful, does it really matter how we go about it? Does it really matter if we’re gay or straight?
So come on straight people of the world! Let your freak flags fly! No shame. No guilt. No judging. We can all have our white picket fences and our leather chaps…and yes…we can all tease eachother on how we look in them.
Please note this column was inspired by Grace Chu’s article in the Huffington Post.
